It's Renee here.
It's really long, but worth it. Sorry only for women.
Deep down, it’d feel nice to have a man desire you
and ONLY you forever, wouldn’t it?
Does it sometimes feel to you like men are just
not satisfied with one woman?
Do you fear that perhaps he feels attraction for
other women even whilst he’s in a committed,
long-term relationship with you?
There’s little else that’s a painful as the
feeling of loss in life. And especially when it
comes to a man.
Like, why would you even want to EVER have a
relationship if you thought you were going to lose
his attention to someone else?
You wouldn’t.
And here’s the thing – lots of times, when you ask
men themselves, even THEY will tell you that it’s
impossible not to feel attracted to other women
whilst they are in a committed relationship with
you.
So, how on earth do you deal with THAT?
You cannot just take what MEN SAY as Gospel Truth!
I mean, if he SAYS it, it must be true, right?
Not quite.
There’s something I have to tell you.
And it’s something I talk about in my program
Commitment Control. You cannot just take what a
man says for granted.
If you do – if you just take it for granted that
he will feel attraction for other women whilst he
is with you – or if you take for granted that he
will always be looking for something else – then
what kind of relationship will you have?
And honestly, how does it feel to YOU – knowing
that he’s always going to be out feeling
attraction for other women?
What are you going to do? Just turn a blind eye to
it like most women?
No, no no.
I’m about to show you what it takes to get a man
to be madly in love with you and ONLY you, and if
you take what I’m about to teach you and use it,
you CAN and WILL experience that kind of love and
security and passion with a man that you’ve always
wanted.
How to Get a Man to Desire you and ONLY you
Here’s the secret to getting a man to desire you
and ONLY you. The general rule that applies here
when you want to get a man to be in love with you
and desire you and ONLY you forever, is that your
mindset changes everything. Or your psychology, as
some call it.
As many highly respected success coaches would
say, success in anything is 80% mindset (or
psychology) and 20% strategies.
And if you don’t learn the mindset behind having a
man want you and ONLY you, and if you don’t
understand WHY most men simply don’t perceive one
woman can meet all of their needs your
relationship will probably fail.
80% of long-term relationships and marriages
ultimately fail. So it’s important you as a woman
to have the right mindset for making yours
succeed.
So here is how you can get yourself out of a rut
and get a man to desire you passionately, the way
you deserve:
1) Understand that most men don’t REALLY think
that they can’t be satisfied with only you.
And it’s not that he REALLY thinks that he cannot
be only attracted to you.
What I mean when I say it’s not that he REALLY
thinks that he cannot be satisfied by only you, is
that it is just his perception. It’s not really
the truth. The TRUTH is in how much you meet his
needs and how much you fulfill him. A man may
VOICE it this way, but it doesn’t have to be true
for YOU, in your life.
When a man says he can’t be satisfied with only
you – or when YOU think his behavior dictates that
he feels this way, what’s really going on is that
he simply doesn’t PERCEIVE that all his needs can
be met by just one woman.
And that doesn’t have to be true forever, even if
it is true in this MOMENT.
And this PERCEPTION that he may have comes from
his own pre-conceived ideas about women and about
relationships in general. this PERCEPTION comes
from his past experiences.
But this PERCEPTION that a man has is something
totally different to the excitement and
fulfillment he could actually potentially have
with you.
Men pick the idea up from popular movies, their
peer groups, their father, their parents’ bad
divorce, the media….the experiences of their guy
friends or close relatives, etc.
By the way, it’s not just men. women often doubt
that one man can meet all of their needs. I used
to doubt it too – until I met my man. and he owns
me. he owns me completely.
He has turned me in to a raving fan, and I
wouldn’t have it any other way, because he always
meets my needs in new ways, at such a high level,
that I don’t even have space for another man in my
mind, my body and my soul. He has taken over my
brain – even years and years in to the
relationship.
It’s really not hard at all for a man to come to
the conclusion that no one woman can meet ALL his
needs.
We all only have one chance. one chance at
innocence in an intimate relationship – and once
we lose it, we can become so hurt that it feels
impossible to be fully satisfied with only one
man. or one woman.
I’ve heard from (and heard of) many men who have
been married just once – and afterwards, they just
don’t want to marry ever again. Ever. But haven’t
we all said ‘NEVER again!’ to something, and later
on down the track, we find ourselves changing our
minds?
Isn’t it true? We all start off as teenagers
falling in love, and we get so consumed, and we
fall in love, and we get hurt – and it’s like;
never again. No thanks.
Many of us (men or women) have the idea that we
can’t really be truly satisfied with one person
(or attracted to) only one person.
So many men and women have been burnt in
relationships, and we are fed so much crap, from
disillusioned adults – from stupid media, that we
tend to have really low expectations just to
protect ourselves.
We don’t want to get too involved or open
ourselves to one person or tie ourselves to one
person just to avoid getting hurt. or being
humiliated.
Until that bombshell comes along. Or that prince.
To have the relationship you want, you have to
come from a "Position of Power"!
You CAN’T just take what men say for granted. This
gives you no power, and moreover, it’s a really
low level place for you to be, as a woman. The
best man/woman relationships have a powerful woman
in it who believes in her ability to influence
men.
It’s not resourceful, and it’s DEFINITELY not
going to get you that relationship you want, or
that man you want so badly.
This is what most women do. a man tells them
something, or they get an idea in their head from
other women about men, and they take it as gospel
truth. well, it’s not hard to sit there and just
be ‘told’ what reality to adopt in your own head.
It’s what most of us do. but little do we know
that people and events are influencing us every
day. especially the people closest to us. And
especially the man or woman we feel the most
attraction for.
Think about it, haven’t you had one of those
moments where you were SURE something was the
truth, and someone or some idea came along and
made you change your mind?
For example, have you ever had a really bad day
where you thought ”gee, nobody really cares about
me at all”, and on that day, a stranger did
something really kind for you – without asking
anything back – and it really changed your
perception about people?
And you were kinda like: ‘oh. Maybe people aren’t
so bad after all!’
Once you let what others say be your ‘truth’,
because they said it – you are instantly
powerless.
Why? Why are you instantly powerless? Because you
basically let the quality of your relationship
with a man be at the mercy of his less-than-true
preconceived ideas about relationships.
Which are, by the way, probably encouraged in him
by people or media who don’t actually care about
him.
As a Woman, You are Always Influencing The Men
Around You
See – you instantly increase your attractiveness
and desirability when you have the courage to
acknowledge that just because someone says
something doesn’t mean it has to be true.
You can take the lead as a woman with your FAITH
that you can fulfill a man so much that he is so
filled up with attraction for YOU that all other
women are like a piece of poo on his shoe to him.
After all, haven’t you heard of men who have been
stuck to a woman (their wife) like glue for LIFE?
madly in love for life?
Here is an interesting scientific finding that
will help you have hope that a man can really
desire you and only you for a lifetime….
In fact, researchers have proved that some men and
women are still madly in love with their beloved
after 20 or more years of marriage. The pathways
of the brain associated with romantic love
(intense attraction) were still lit up as much as
they are lit up for couples when they first fall
in love in the initial months of the relationship,
and in some cases, these couples showed more
activity in the area of the brain associated with
romantic love and intense attraction.
You’ve been in love before, haven’t you? You know,
that feeling where you are obsessed with one man
and cannot get him out of your head? Well, you can
have a man feel this for you not just for a few
weeks, not just for a few months, but FOREVER.
So, would you at least acknowledge that this kind
of relationship exists?
Because if you don’t, you’re just shooting
yourself in the foot when it comes to
relationships.
Women everywhere, every day, are experiencing this
kind of bliss in their relationship!
Shouldn’t you be able to relax and JUST BE
YOURSELF?
It doesn’t have to be exhaustive – fulfilling a
man. I know it does feel exhaustive sometimes,
kinda like you can’t just relax and BE YOURSELF,
right?
But the real change is not in the EFFORT you put
in and the constant racking your brain and
‘TRYING” to keep a man interested. It’s really not
about putting in more ‘effort’ as such.
The REAL change is in your mindset.
Kind of like why for some people it’s so easy to
stay slim, but for others, they cannot get the
weight off! Right? We all know someone like this.
And some people can NEVER lose weight EVEN if they
are working their butts off PHYSICALLY at the gym
EVERY NIGHT.
Why is this?
It’s because of their mindset.
Mindset dictates your decisions and actions
subconsciously.
The truth about why so many men don’t feel happy
with just one woman
Do you want to know the truth?
The truth about why so many men simply don’t want
to commit to just one woman? The cold hard facts
about what most women out there are like?
The facts are this: most women are completely and
utterly BORING. They’re always the same kind of
person!
And the same is true with men, isn’t it? It’s not
just women, it’s men, too. Men can be really
boring to be in a relationship with! Especially
when you’ve been together for a while.
And it’s not their fault! It’s not their fault
that they are boring.
The reason for why so many men and women are
boring to be with in a relationship is that in our
society, most of us become one-dimensional people,
and are always the same kind of person, because we
BELIEVE that we are only one kind of person.
That’s why it’s so important to avoid being a
one-dimensional woman.
Most Women are One-dimensional
And we are RAISED to be one-dimensional at school,
and often by our family and peers.
People always ‘BOX’ us in to one category and
limit us to one identity.
For example: we are the sexy one, the quiet one,
the ’gentle, kind-hearted’ one. The daring one.
The ‘smart’ one. The ‘elegant’ one.
But the truth is that you are a lot more than just
that. You are a lot more than JUST elegant, for
example.
And often, if we do something that’s slightly
different than what we normally do, people or our
“friends”, are all like: “you’ve CHANGED“. (in
that dreaded negative tone, like changing is the
most evil thing in the world).
And as a result, it’s incredibly hard and feels
unnatural’ to be multi-dimensional.
YOU are light feminine AND dark feminine.
Once you embody ALL parts of yourself, you will
find that men are lining up to devote themselves
to you.
Why? Because this way, they never lose their
freedom by being with you!
You don’t restrict a man because you’re being a
one-dimensional woman!
Some experts say that women can become the kind of
woman that makes a man ‘give up his freedom’ to be
with them. Well, the truth is that NO man is ever
going to give up his freedom to be with you. Not a
masculine man on earth will ever give up his
freedom. Freedom is at the heart of being a man;
it’s at the heart of masculinity.
A man wants to genuinely commit to you for the
right reasons (ie: because he’s a raving fan of
you) when he feels more freedom by being with you
than he does by NOT being with you.
Embodying your light and Dark feminine is
something I talk about in depth in week 2 of my
high end program Commitment Control.
2) Respect yourself enough to KNOW that you can be
enough for this one man FOREVER. Once YOU have
this confidence, you will start to see him change,
and you will attract something completely
different in a man. And if you are single, you
will attract a completely different kind of man.
Most of us have no idea how much influence we have
over a man when we have the courage to acknowledge
that we can and already have it within us to be
more than enough for a man for LIFE.
After all, it feels MUCH safer if you just think
you can’t do it.
Because then you can never fail. And oftentimes,
not failing seems a much more attractive idea than
looking like a fool, doesn’t it? if you just take
it for granted that men will always be looking for
something “more” outside of a relationship with
you – you can sit back and avoid being hurt.
But by doing this, you just end up powerless and
miserable.
The Action Steps for Making a Man Desire you and
ONLY You
So here are the three action steps to stop your
man feeling dissatisfied with only you, and get
him to desire only you and commit all his
attention to only you:
1) stop ASKING him about whether he is attracted
to other women, and stop FOCUSING on his possible
attraction to other women.
Where focus goes, energy flows. The peak
performance coach Anthony Robbins said that.
So the more you focus on the possibility of his
desire for other women, the more likely you are to
lose him to another woman. And the less power you
claim for yourself.
And, the more likely you are to just push him
away. Because it’s exhausting to be with somebody
who is always looking out for possible reasons
that they are not enough for you. Imagine yourself
being with a man like this!
Instead, focus on a new truth: you CAN be the
dream woman for this man that he may not even feel
exists right now.
The kind of woman that juices him and makes him
unable to have room for any other woman in his
mind.
Every single time you notice yourself looking for
signs that he might be attracted to other women,
INSTANTLY bring your focus back to YOURSELF and
what you can do.
2) Every time you notice yourself feeling insecure
about other women – or about him not being
satisfied – Stop what you are doing, and excuse
yourself to go to the bathroom, or jump up and
down on the spot – whatever you want.
Change your physical state. Do something crazy to
change your physical state. do ANYTHING just to
change your physical state, because fear is
physical.
And you cannot make the right decisions or be the
woman he wants when you are coming from a place of
fear. Anytime you are fearful, your heart rate is
raised, your body’s whole biochemistry changes.
This is why it’s important to simply change your
physical state – changing your physical state also
changes your emotional state.
3) Start telling yourself a different story.
We all make up stories in our heads as a way of
justifying our suffering, or as a way of
justifying what we don’t have, or what we haven’t
achieved.
A lot of us have stories that are complete lies
that we tell ourselves.
Stories like: “Men are always dissatisfied.”
Stories like: ”My relationships never last longer
than a few months”.
Stories like: “Men are never satisfied with ME.
But they seem to be satisfied with OTHER women.”
Stories like: “I’m not the kind of woman men are
irresistibly drawn to.”
Stories like: “Men always leave. No matter how
much I try to fulfill a man, he always leaves or
he always wants something else. I just can’t keep
him interested!”
We all tell ourselves silly stories that are
untrue. So you need to tell yourself a better
story. For example, say the story you habitually
tell yourself is:
“oh, I was never considered that beautiful, I’ve
never had enough love from any man and my
relationships never work out. I’m no Megan Fox, I
could never be enough because he’s always going to
want someone hotter, more popular, or younger.”
Remind yourself that that is bollocks. Megan Fox
has been MADE OUT deliberately, to be a sex
symbol, so of course most people see her that way.
Of course MEN see her that way.
It’s the same way people box everyone in to little
capsules of what they think they should be.
You have the capability to be a Megan Fox because
all you have to do is stir a man’s physical AND
emotional desire.
Stirring a man’s desire and triggering his
attention are things you can learn. You just have
to tap in to that part of yourself.
So, your new story could be:
“I am more than enough for this man. I have always
been enough. I know the truth, I’ve just been
lying to myself. The truth is that I have
everything I need within me right NOW to be more
than enough. Sexy enough, smart enough, poised
enough, beautiful enough – all of it.
And I have access to this power within me right
now, TODAY. Not tomorrow, or next month, or next
year. But right now, TODAY.”
Doesn’t that feel nice?
So here is what you need to do right now to make
sure that you are on the right path to having the
desire of the man YOU want on YOU and ONLY you
forever:
RIGHT NOW: you need to ACT so that you get this
all in to place in your life, and so that you can
be the kind of woman who has all the attention and
devotion in the world from any man you want.
You need to write down what your old story (or
stories) you’ve been telling yourself is:
Whether it’s that ‘men are never satisfied’
OR:
‘Men are horribly complicated creatures that are
difficult to work out”.
(And you really need to dig deep here, a lot of
our most negative stories are etched deep in to
our subconscious, after telling ourselves the same
story for years and year on end).
And once you’ve written out the old story you’ve
been telling yourself, you need to write down what
your NEW story is, and start telling yourself the
new story.
For example, your new story could be:
“I am a ridiculously attractive and irresistible
woman who always has something new and better to
bring to the table. All I need to do is get a bit
more understanding of men, and stop telling myself
lies about my own capabilities and desirability.”
And once you’ve written this new story down -
You must acknowledge that most of us have just
never been taught what truly attracts men and
makes them go crazy with desire for you day after
day, year, after year.
The same way most of us have never been taught how
to start and maintain a business; how to initiate
and take control of our destiny. That’s why 90% of
all businesses fail within the first 5 years.
In fact, most of us have totally lost touch with
that natural femininity and intuition needed to be
successful in courtship and relationship with men,
because we’ve become one-dimensional.
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